HOW TO HEAL FROM EMOTIONAL AND TRAUMATIC PAINS

What is Emotional and psychological trauma?


It is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security, making you feel helpless in a dangerous world. Traumatic experiences often involve a threat to life or safety, but any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and isolated can be traumatic, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. It’s not the objective facts that determine whether an event is traumatic, but your subjective emotional experience of the event. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized.

What is Psychological and Mental pain or Emotional pain ?

It is an unpleasant feeling (a suffering) of a psychological, non-physical origin. A pioneer in the field of suicidology, Edwin S. Shneidman, described it as "how much you hurt as a human being. It is mental suffering; mental torment."

"There is dangerous traffic on life’s highway and much that can harm us, leaving us by the side of the road broken, bleeding and hurting. We are all casualties in something, whether broken relationships, abuse in our childhood, parental failures, personal sins or tragic happenings. Pain caused by other people"



What is Depression?

Depression is a common mental disorder that present with depressed mood, loss of interest, or pleasure, decreased energy, feeling of guilt or low self-worth or esteem, disturbed sleep or appetite, and poor concentration. There are different types of mental illnesses relating to depression. Such as Depression Stress Anxiety Post - Trauma Stress Grief Shame Phobia. And most cases we pass thru depression without knowing. But whenever you start lose concentration, and it's overwhelmed with feelings of emptiness... Pls talk to someone. Depression is a noise of the mind, sometimes so cloudy... It leaves one in a loss of words to even express how you feel.. Anything can trigger you depression..

What is Heartbreak?

Heartbreak is a term used to describe crushing grief, anguish, and distress, often due to the pains and strains of love. The experience of heartbreak can be so intense that some scientists suggest it feels the same as physical pain. ... Looks like heartbreak really can hurt the human heart.


Now having known the definition of all these mental stress. . 

We are going to talk about how you'd help your self heal. 

Tips on how you can get healed of the above emotional pains. 

How you'd feel better. ..

Love Yourself First:

1)  Love yourself — first — the way you want to be loved. 
Nobody is going to love you more, and if anybody other than your mom swears to. otherwise, pls run.

One of the hardest things I’ve learned, or rather am learning is to love myself. 

And when you’re from an abusive relationship or an abusive home, it’s just that there is the feeling of not deserving love. It’s something that has taken so much work for me. 
I must be honest, it is not going to be easy,  but you have to try. 

And am very sure you're going to be doing fine.
I know sometimes its difficult to shut tjose negative voices that keeps screaming worda like "You will amount to nothing, you can't make it, you will never be happy, you're a failure".
Then you have to try to as much as you can to turn deaf ears to it… maintain the way you want to really feel about yourself. 

2)  Speak kindly to yourself. Speak to yourself with positivity and care. Accept and embrace yourself the way you want your partner to.

Speak to yourself... The way you desire others to speak to you. 

Stand in from of a the mirror, try to smile at yourself, then begin to tell yourself kind words.. Shut your ears to negative words listen to the positive words buried inside of you, there must be something good about you, you need to remind yourself. 

You'd be amazed how you'd feel after ten minutes. 

3) Reconnect with the most positive spirits in your life, where you can make forward progress, rather than obsessing over the past.

4) Embrace love over heartbreak
Be your own best friend, your own cheerleader, your own soulmate.

5) Speak with words of love and encouragement. Speak with patience and kindness. Speak forgiveness and optimism for all you’ve learned, and what’s to come.

Treat yourself with love, and do not bind yourself in heartbreak.
Stop feeling emotionally abandoned. 

I know it is not as easy as it sounds, to be honest.  But you can do this ...


6)  Talk or think about a painful experience/memory but “hold” it lightly. This means that as you recall the trauma, breathe deeply and assume a “witness” perspective: giving space between the memory and awareness of it.

The ability to hold “space” between the trauma and your observation of it is a tremendously powerful position to be in. You begin to realize and feel that the trauma isn’t you: it’s simply something that happened to you. And how liberating this is.

Depression has something to do with our neurotransmitter which can hardly be solved with words

If I don’t love myself first, nobody can possibly say or do anything that will convince me that I am loved.

Heartbreak (wanted to use your favorite word) can offer information and guide you to what you really want and need — can also be an indication of where you long to grow, to develop…Great piece!


When the pastor in our Church starts a new cycle on the Biblical group on “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself,” — she planned to finish it in six months. But they got stuck with “love thyself”. I think your idea would help, but nobody has come with it. I will show your article to my pastor.


You’ve dug so far into yourself now that you’re starting to mine nuggets instead of flakes. I can’t wait to see where this journey takes you! :)


7) Stop Breaking Your Own Damn Heart
Stop holding yourself to hurt

Stop telling yourself you’re not good enough.
I know you do this because we all do it. I also know you do this because nobody not doing it is reading this. We are the troubled, and we read things like that and know it’s for us, because we know it’s true. I say we because I do it too, from time to time — I think “heartbreak” is the most beautiful human emotion and I wallow on occasion — and I tell you there’s no shame, because there isn’t.

But we also all have a choice, and many of us are choosing.

You think you deserve that pain, but you don’t.
Stop thinking you’re not worth happiness and emotional wellbeing, because it’s a basic need to which each person is entitled — if they only pause and claim it.

Stop blaming yourself for every failure.

Stop blaming others as well.

Stop ruminating on finding who’s to blame for anything that goes wrong; stop obsessing on where it should be placed.

Stop hanging onto history; stop flinging the windows open into the cold front; stop leaving glass panels hanging on their hinges in the wind.

This what you can read to love yourself more. 

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