YOU MUST UNDERSTAND YOUR OWN SEXUALITY, IF YOU MUST ENJOY ITS BENEFITS



For most of us.... We were shielded and made to be unaware of how multifaceted, beautiful and far ranging sexuality is.

Without even thinking about it most of us see sex and sexuality in boxes.


We equate people's sexual interests to occupations, sexual histories to self worth, and even sexual competency to the entirety of one's being.

When in reality sexuality exist on a spectrum that is far reaching with no definite lines or categories. See,  we were all taught to see sex one way.

Which is why when it comes to owning and learning our sexualities it takes so much work to learn to dissociate from the previously held notions and belief we had.

In a society that keeps the understanding about this topic in the dark for ages... And are willing to do in years, generations to come.

We never hear about the 50 yr old who is finally coming into their own pleasure.

We don't also hear about the lawyer and dentist who go to swinger parties every night. We don't also hear about the nudist families who live their lives.

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